"Because we idealize Giving so much, we ignore the ability, blessing, and duty to Receive." ~ Ashlecka Aumrivani
The Pillars of Care
Strategies for success for a supported, restful & repleted postpartum can be strengthened when we think and talk about what the Pillars of Care looks like in the big picture. Deep Rest, Deep Nourishment and Receiving.
Food has been used since the dawn of time for healing and replenishment. Pregnancy, Labor, Delivery, Postpartum and Breastfeeding all have unique nutrient demands on the body. Quite often, new parents are left without an opportunity to fully take care of themselves and compensate for the depleted needs of the immediate postpartum state.
DO THIS: Create a Bedside Sanctuary
Ultimately (and specifically in the first 3 weeks), it is the goal to have the person who has given birth be IN THE BED for the 1st week postpartum, TOUCHING THE BED in the 2nd week, and doing ZERO chores (meal prep, dishes, laundry, cleaning, tidying up, pet care, hosting) for the 3rd week.
They may not be able to be present in your day to day life but there are many ways to receive.
Assemble a team / village /community / conduits of care / Loved Ones / Trusted Ones /the Inner Circle /The Circle of Trust. :) You get the drift. These are your people. Perhaps you are related to them, perhaps not.
From the inner circle to the outer, think of these folks as your village of care. Thinking beyond sweet baby onesies, diaper cakes and that baked ziti - think of selecting the people in this group as you would have selected and asked the people in your wedding party.
Invite them into your plan with some fanfare - impressing upon them your desire to have a postpartum in which you have ever opportunity to rest. To be treated like a royalty.
You probably are familiar with this concept and I say that it is something to take full advantage of. Depending on how intricate you feel like you want to get, meal trains can be helpful for rounding out the planning and taking the load off. Sometimes, the food dropped off is not always the most friendly to the postpartum body but can be helpful to fill in the gaps and feed partners and siblings.
(Reminder: Boundaries are okay! Doing things differently than a loved one is okay too!