"Happiness requires two things; unconditional love + unconditional support" ~ Poetry by Dolly


This section is for the loved ones that want to help....but probably don't want to read all of the information contained within.


If they get curious or aren't understanding why this approach is being taken, here are some quick take aways.  Hopefully, they will have enough understanding, acknowledgments , and respect to go along with little but a raised eyebrow or a shrug. :) 








 FLAT, TEPID WATER (not iced)


Healing isn't linear and can be a complex picture for each individual. 
  • We do NOT promote any calorie counting, bouncing back, or scales.
  • We DO promote grace and space. The idea that the choices of the new parents should be honored and the ability to hold space for them to explore what this new role looks like (as it very well will look different for each person). A judgement free zone. 
Helping the new parent to maximize this preciously short time, we can look back generations and know that historically, people who have given birth have LOTS of help within the home. In hunter gather cultures, there was 14 adults to 1 baby/mother.  That's a lot of help! We have gotten so far away from this as we've watched mood disorders rise. We can do our best to recreate this by following these three Pillars of Care. We clearly spend a lot of time here rambling on about what Deep Nourishment looks like, but let's also take a look at the other two. 
Deep Rest:
  • Week 1: Let's help the birthgiver to be in their bed almost completely the first week.  Yes, they can (and should) get up to stretch legs and get some light on their face or use the bathroom, move the blood around but, ideally, we want them nestled in their bedside sanctuary. They can eat in bed, read in bed, bond and heal.  Everything is within arms reach and food is brought to them on a tray.
  • Week 2:  We want them at least touching the bed, sitting up in it or near it. Their only job is to rest, eat, and bond. No cleaning up, no tasks, or food prep etc.
  • Week 3:  Near the bed.  This means that despite the fact that their body might be feeling a bit more together and their may be a return to some energy. Strong encouragement on being easy, slow and resting is still paramount.  If bleeding increases, which it can sometimes, it means they are doing too much. 
They are receiving right now by having the nonjudgmental and unconditional support from loved ones.  They can (and should) also Receive by seeking out help from friends, family, trusted professionals. There is so much required of a new parent that helping them to Receive means that they too are honored and celebrated.  
Let folks do a Meal Train (to help support partner), encourage new parents groups (there are tons of virtual ones), getting body work, having their house cleaned, their dog walked, their trash taken out. etc.
Deep Nourishment: 
We talk about deep nourishment as being full of nutrient rich, anti inflammatory, whole foods.  We are looking to avoid severe postnatal depletion and build back the stores within the postpartum body.  

Ideally, it is generally recommended to avoid or limit during the first 6 weeks...


    • Avoid salads and other raw foods for awhile with exception of banana and avocado​


    • Please no iced drinks or frozen smoothies! Yes, they can be healthy but aren't right for the postpartum body right now.


    • This includes breads, crackers, hard protein bars​, trail mix. 


    • Tough on this settling digestion​. Cayenne is the one exception that can be used sparsely AFTER the early days. 


    • For awhile, it's a good idea to limit the tomato based soups and foods. ​



  • These are very hard on the digestion and digestion/gut health is the BACK BONE of good health.

  • Some are nutrient poor and inflammatory which irritates multiple systems in the body including immune function. 

  • The abdomen needs time to settle- the muscle tissues are already taxed & tired - we aren't looking to make it work harder right now. 

  • Bloating / Gas / Acid Reflux

Create Optimal Balancing by harnessing Food as Medicine:

  • Eating  food that is well cooked & easily digestible.
    We are always WARMING the birthgiver. 

  • Real Foods that are nutrient dense & low inflammatory, whole foods based. 
    In general, we are using an ancestral, traditional approach to this time.

  • Continue PreNatal Vitamin - see information on Postnatal Depletion

  • Consume Lots of Warming (Medicinal) Spices Turmeric, Ginger, Clove, Cardamom, Cumin, Nutmeg, Cinnamon

  • Consume Good Fat with each meal: Ghee, Coconut Oil,
    Real Butter, Sesame Oil, Olive Oil, Avocado, Nuts + Seeds (Chia!)

  • Add Calories, especially if breastfeeding

  • Lots and lots of fluids (Flat Water & Teas)

Pillars of Care

The universal needs for healing

  • Lastly, this is not a diet, this is an eating approach. The Birthgiver cannot fail, nor should they worry about clothing size, bouncing back, scales or any such nonsense at this time. 

  • This is an approach to eating that is geared to this truly unique and highly demanding timeframe in a birthing person's life. There is no other time in their life that mirrors what is happening in the postpartum body. This is meant to be a short lived (6 - 8 weeks) pathway with room for variety, flexibility and increased complexity.

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