Cooking of food can be sacred - Many are familiar with the concept put forward in the book (and movie) 'Like Water For Chocolate' - the premise is quite well thought of across many cultures - where intention goes, energy flows.....even into our food.
PILLAR OF CARE
Simply put, the Postpartum Kitchen is ALL of our kitchens.
It is the heart of the home, a sacred space that is full of warmth, trust, love, and nourishment - and soon giggles, joy, tears & little tiny dishes.
Taking this part of postpartum on should not be full of discontent. It is encouraged to clear away some of the clutter, stale, stagnant items, food and fodder that is lurking around. The nesting instinct may have already taken care of this but making way for fresh, clear, vibrant energy is worth taking a moment or two to do.
It is likely your kitchen has much of what is needed; we will talk more in depth about gadgets, uni-taskers, space savers, and timesavers in the Tools + Equipment section. But right now, let's put that aside and talk about something deeper. As a part of the evolution of parenthood, the concept of boundaries and holding space in this thoughtful and well intentioned space you are creating.
“Holding space is an act that is at once totally present and totally invisible” ~Harrison Owen.⠀
Doula Laurina Cerredo says, "For me holding space is to stand aside someone on their birth, loss/bereavement or dying journey. It is non judgmental companionship and the willingness to be uncomfortable but present. Not to resolve but to accept what is. It is supporting, nor guiding nor coaching." ~Doula Laurina Cerredo⠀
Believing in the principle that “whatever happens is the only thing that could have happened” ~The Tao of Holding Space⠀
In other words, it’s a bit of a paradox.⠀
More simply, for some it is sitting in a non judgmental place, it's giving power not taking it, it's removal of ego and the urge to fix. In Buddhism: it's a practice of loving- kindness, compassion and acceptance.⠀
Find people that do this for you. Yes, let's hope loved ones do this automatically, but also with the help you enlist for your pregnancy and postpartum
When I cook in a client's home, holding space in the heart of the home is amongst one of my top honors.
We can hold space for ourselves by thinking about boundaries and what that might look like for you. As with everything in this site, take what resonates and leave rest.
Examples of boundaries for new parents that might resonate.
No visitors at hospital
Limiting visitors at the home
Not passing around the baby
Staying firm to whatever ritual or routine feels good. (Routines are quite hard in the early postpartum and it's encouraged to think of things more like a rhythm. )
Doing things differently than your parents, grandparents, siblings, friends.
Setting limits that when held to, help with feelings of well-being and safety.
Saying NO! It's a complete sentence - no need to elaborate.
Self - advocating
Making your intentions and plans clear and obvious (stick it on the fridge!)
Sticking to a framework, method, or anchor that works for you.